Your heart is different

No two hearts are alike. We have to care for each heart through Jesus’s love by caring for the unique heart of the individual person.

This was part of what I got from Pastor Haily tonight. I changed it a little to fit how I could apply this as a person with no kids to raise.
In my Pharmacy technician course I have had to do communication classes. This week we had a quiz on empathy, I failed it. I should also mention that you need 80% to pass, it’s not the 50% pass classes. Here’s the thing. I failed because of what our pastor said tonight. Caring for the individual unique heart. That is empathy. Our textbook has specific answers for each person and each problem that is universal. We are supposed to care for each person as though that person is the exact same as the next. There’s a formula to follow. A set of rules to apply. It’s not true empathy. As Christians we have learned a version of empathy that’s different from the rest of the world. The world has a view of empathy that isn’t actually empathetic. It says. “You do you.” “I’m not judging.” “I’m caring for myself first.” And we call it empathy and caring, but it’s not. Empathy says, “I actually care about you. I care so much that I want to help you. I know you feel like this but.”
We had a casd study. A woman came in with so much heart pain. Not physical. And we had to help her. We were supposed to answer with. ” I’m sorry you feel that way. These things happen. It won’t last forever.”
What I wanted to say was, “honey there is nothing we can do, but have you met Jesus?” How do people move on past pain without Jesus. As Christians we have learned from the one who suffered all to take the suffering of others and try to understand and show them the answers through Jesus. There’s medication. There’s pat answers. But without showing them to the true God who is the only one who can truly help, there is nothing we can do to truly help. We have learned to work at truly caring as Christians, but truly caring means you try to help. Help sometimes looks like praying in your mind. Caring looks like letting the person talk and showing that you are listening. Help looks like guiding to the right answers. Caring looks like guiding to Jesus.
How do you show empathy? In the way of the Christian who lives Jesus, or in the way of the world where they don’t actually care? If you fail the world’s empathy test, maybe that’s because your empathy comes from Jesus and your answers are the right ones. Also. You can’t always empathize. People will speak to you of things you cannot accept and cannot connect with. In those times remember that Jesus is there and you can pray in you heart and is working for those people. Don’t bend to the belief that acceptance of a lifestyle is empathy. A sinful lifestyle is not something you should be accepting of. Those are people you need to pray for. This is not a straight forward topic. Pray and read your Bible and see how God wants you to show love to those around you, without bowing to their beliefs.