Was that wrong?

Was that wrong?

Today I had an experience that dealt with somebody who did something that went against something I believe in. Not a Christian or Church something. Just a personal belief. I saw a person I know going to do something that I personally would say was unkind. Someone else I know saw this other person going to do this thing and brought it up to me, I simply said that I felt it wasn’t a nice thing to do. I was immediately told off because the person doing the unkind thing was connected to me. I had my defense up by that point and tried to joke my way out of their annoyance at my statement. Which made things worse and I was told ‘you can’t get rid of them if you want to.’ Which had nothing to do with what I had said, and by that point I was irritated and replied without thinking, ‘you can try!’
That was not the correct response on my part and having been angry for being called out was no excuse. But here is what I realized. I never once said anything against the person in question, that would be wrong. I responded to being questioned on the subject that I felt their action was unkind. Not the person. The action.
This is a growing problem in the world today. You can no longer speak out against an action you feel is wrong without people accusing you of speaking out against the person. People are so sensitive that if you mention a sin (as the Bible tells us to do) to a friend, that you notice creeping in, that friend will more often than not get angry that you are being judgmental. Now. Sometimes we are being judgmental. But hopefully more often than not you are worrying for the soul of a loved one. I know that I do it too. Someone says something about something I have done and criticizes the action and I take it as a personal assault and usually it isn’t.
This has always been a problem because we are people and we get hurt really easily. But we have always tried to follow the Biblical doctrine of hating sin and loving sinners. That includes the people in your Church and family because we are all sinners. But people now claim that if you don’t accept their sins you aren’t loving them and so the concern for the soul is thrown out for the sake of the feelings. You know why people say that? Because they want to keep sinning. And we all do this. If you chose to tell me that I was wrong in what I said at the end of my conversation with the person who got in my face, you would be right. You could probably be right by telling me that I shouldn’t have said anything at all, even though asked. However if you told me that an hour ago when I was still smarting from it I would have taken it personally and been upset. Because it always hurts to have your sins called out. Do we speak butterflies or hornets when we open our mouths? And do we take criticism of an action as criticism of our selves?
It’s always hard. But the bunny in Bambi said it right, “if you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything at all.” And if you feel you should say something even though it might not land well with the person you are speaking to, do it with love in your heart and the reminder in your mind that you make mistakes too. Then maybe your point will get across without tempers flaming.